Oh... what to say? The miracle of life! It has (finally) touched my family. And in all seriousness, words really can't express what that means to me. When you can't get pregnant and you think there's something wrong with you, or that you messed up, or that you somehow don't deserve a baby, it's the worst feeling in the world. So I truly can't say enough how happy this makes me.
Happy and terrified.
I wanted and wanted this, but now that I'm facing it, I am drowning in scared. Suddenly how little I know about raising babies seems like a really big deal. Before it was real, I thought, "How hard can it be? We'll figure it out!" Now I think, "This is going to be the hardest thing ever. We're not going to figure it out. We're all going to die." I'll be honest. A large part of this is how difficult pregnancy is for me. I have been sick sick sick for the past six weeks. Cripplingly sick. I quit my job. I never leave the house. I can eat nothing but crackers. The inside of my toilet and I have become good friends. It is awful, I tell you, AWFUL! And if this is hard, what about what comes later? Can you blame me for being freaked?
But, as in all life's challenges. I guess the only thing to do is to have faith. Especially faith in myself. I may not be the world's best mother, but I probably won't be the world's worst either. Especially not with good friends like you to help me. So bring on the advice and the book recommendations! Hit me with the morning sickness cures and the horror stories (but try and be sensitive because you know I'm already afraid). I want it all. Tell me everything. Let me learn from your experience (Please!). This baby will be here at the end of May, so I gotta get cracking! We love you all and are so happy to finally be able to share our news with you. You can be sure more updates are to come, but right now I gotta go throw up...
It's a... Sea Monster! We call it Cecil the Seasick Sea Monster.
We love you already Cecil!
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Emily, I know how you feel all too well. The first two trimesters of my pregnancies are some of the DARKEST periods of my life. It was awful. Zofran did nothing for me, but I liked taking something called phenergan mostly because I was too busy sleeping to vomit. You're going to be an amazing mom... once you can stop puking and cursing the little sea monster growing inside of you. It WILL get better. In the meantime, just curl up and sleep for the nest few months.
There are not enough words in the English language for me to express how happy I am for you guys! You will be wonderful parents, I know. Congrats!!
ExCItiNg!! We are so happy for you two. You are seriously going to be the coolest parents!! I'm already envious of your sea monkey. I hope you get feeling better soon.
Congratulations!! Sorry, I don't have any advice for you now, but once the baby comes, I can tell you which books to read. I'm so happy for you!
Emily, this is such exciting news!!!! I fully understand the joy of pregnancy after waiting a while! But I wish I could better sympathize with you and your morning (or all day) sickness. I didn't get too sick. But I my dr. said extra B6 vitamins may help. If it's really bad and you can't keep anything down, def. ask your dr. for an Rx for either Phenergan or Zofran! One or the other usually works well for people!! And don't worry, you'll be a great mom. It's really not as hard as you think. :) :)
Congratulations!! That is so exciting! I'm really so happy for you guys.
So I haven't been pregnant, but I have had terrible constant nausea so I can sympathize with you. It is AWFUL! But Phenergan made life livable for me then. If your doctor will let you have it, get it! I was ravenous when I finally got Phenergan and could eat again! It was heaven!
Oh my goodness YAY!!!! I'm so excited for you. You'll be a fabulous mom. Cecil is so lucky. I'll try to come up with some advice but I'm only 4 weeks into this mothering thing. It's not as hard as it looks and you'll be awesome!
As far as the sickness, I don't have any good advice. I wish we lived closer so Calder and I could spend our days keeping you company while you threw up. :)
Em you know I have nothing but confidence in you guys! Honestly you are already a better mother than a lot of people I have seen. You are so, so good with kids & understand all the little linguistics of it all too. You really have nothing at ALL to worry about. If there were one person in the world I have no concern about their being an incredible mom what so ever it is with out a question YOU! You've already done the hard parenting thing for a year being a nanny to 2 kids that weren't yours.
So stop worrying!!! You were worried sick you weren't going to get a baby & look you are, so now stop being scared & just start being excited!!! Well maybe I'll give you a little break while you puke your guts out, but once you're feeling better it had better be pure excitement! You deserve it.
Emily congrats!!! I am so happy for you. May is the perfect time to be having a baby because you miss the whole winter and RSV season. Lucky you. Sometimes being pregnant again gives me nightmares. I was so sick in the beginning, not barfing too much thank goodness, but I was not hungry, EVER. Hey, I lost a ton of weight though! Hang in there, I am hoping this will pass once the 2nd trimester starts. And then you will really start getting excited. I just can't belive it! Congratulations! Oh--and have you tried ginger cookies? Ginger will help with the nasea(sp?) and so will ginger ale!
Dear Emily and Matt,
Super exciting news! Congratulations! I know exactly how you are feeling... sick, scared, wondering if this really was a good idea... So I have no advice yet except to not be too hard on yourself. I was supposed to be during research during my first trimester and I really didn't do anything else. It was hard on Noah because he had to do everything but we survived. Luckily I'm not nearly as sick as I was before. So are you about 11-12 weeks? You have to keep us updated! I bet your mom is freaking out!
Congratulations again!
Congratulations! Sorry that you are so sick. But you are going to be a great mother so you have nothing to be scared about.
Hey Emily, it's Leslie. Congratulations! I read about your news on Denae's blog and I am SO excited for you and Matt! The best thing to realize as you are freaking out about being a mom is that it's okay to not know anything. Neither did anyone else before they had their babies... and MOST of those kids turned out alright... right? :) I have no good nausea cures... I just learned to only brush my teeth when I really needed to--that just is asking to vomit! Eating nuts and ginger altoids helped a little and eating tiny bites of stuff that tastes good coming back up helps... a little. I lived off chocolate milk, grapefruit juice and almonds for literally two months. Just keep in mind while you're throwing up... that it is WAY safer for your baby to be sick while you're pregnant than be fine. (It's a good sign you won't miscarry, but I'm sure you already knew that.) My book recommendations: happiest baby on the block, babywise, dr. sear's baby book, and healthy sleep habits-happy child. Congrats!!
The book that saved my life- "Baby Wise." I don't think I would have "got it" though until after I actually had the baby. It basically talks about getting the baby on a schedule. And that it is okay to let the baby cry. It really helped me figure out what my baby needed. Anyway, it is very practical and I liked it. But you'll figure all this out on your own day by day, and then out of nowhere your baby won't be a "baby" anymore. Here's the secret-NONE of us knew what we were doing when we got ourselves into it. But somehow we figure it out! And the baby...ahhhh the baby. Worth it all. You'll be great. And hopefully your pueking will end soon.
EM! I just found this hilarious blog that I hope will make you smile in between bathroom trips. Maybe you could set a laptop up on top of the toilet tank, and read from there. It is from the point of view of a Labor & Delivery nurse at a busy hosptial. I just about peed my pants a few times. http://itsababynotbrainsurgery.blogspot.com/
Also, I know you'll be better than at least 25% of moms out there simply because you are not a crack whore. Add another 30% because you are aware that you are pregnant. Then add another 20% because you had a great mother yourself, plus younger siblings (which qualifies for "semi-mom" experience) and a nanny job. You get 10% more because your beautiful voice and proclivity to singing will be a very effective weapon against crankiness and crying. So far you rank in the 85th percentile, which is not high enough for people like us. (If I ever have a child, I'll be right here at 85% because you know me, and I just don't have the last part in me.) The final 14% (because they never make a 100th percentile for some reason!) is that you're unquestionably the most patient and kind human being I know. I could recite specific incidents, but you know what I mean. We lived together! I tried to make you less kind and patient...but you resisted. Good for you. So there ya go. Irrefutable scientific evidence that you will be one of the best moms out there!
Love you!
Congrats Emily! It must run in the family...took us about 2 years to get Will here...and then for the first 13 weeks all I could think of was "be careful what you wish for!" because I was miserable. And my second pregnancy was worse than my first. Ended up in the hospital on IV's with Sawyer. Joy! With me morning sickness comes to an abrupt stop at about 14 weeks and everything after that is not nearly as bad (although not really enjoyable either I'll admit!). I've decided that with our next baby I'm just going to be honest with myself and ask for the nausea meds up front. I end up on them anyways after getting dehydrated so why not prevent it in the first place?! Sleep a lot and don't bother trying to cook--that's my advice!
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